Yep, you read that right. A wedding planner is writing a blog post all about NOT enjoying planning a wedding.
No, you’re not going mad (and I’m not considering a career change!), I was inspired to write about this topic after reading this very honest blog post from blogging extraordinaire and bride-to-be Victoria (AKA In The Frow) about the elements of wedding planning that she just wasn’t enjoying.
It was a refreshingly open article on a somewhat taboo subject. There’s a common misconception that every woman should love being a bride-to-be, but this certainly isn’t always the case. Wedding planning entails a LOT of work within an industry that you often don’t know much about until you get engaged. It’s big decisions, multiple communications and huge apportionments of money and, more often than not, it will occur during a time in your life where you have many other big things going on.
So here’s a few tips on what to do if you find that, actually, wedding planning isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.
Communication is key when it comes to so many aspects of a relationship and planning a wedding shouldn’t be any different. Talk to your partner about how you’re feeling and don’t be afraid to explain that you’re just not enjoying things like you expected you would. It might also be good to speak to a friend or family member who isn’t directly involved in your wedding plans to chat through the things that you’re struggling with.
One thing is for sure, bottling up your feelings when you’re finding something tough is never a good solution and sharing things with the people close to you can often shed some much-needed clarity when you have a task to tackle.
People can be put off hiring a wedding planner for all sorts of reasons but, if you ever hit a stage of planning where you stop enjoying the process, ask for help from a professional. They will be able to recommend the best suppliers for your wedding, save you valuable time, effort and money and put the necessary processes in place to ensure that your plans stay on track.
Different wedding planners offer different services and your chosen planner should be able to suggest the best service for you based on the stage of planning you are at (or create an entirely bespoke service based on your requirements). You can learn more about the services that I offer with Rachel Dalton Weddings here.
The average wedding takes 250-300 hours PLUS to plan. And if you work full time, the chances are you’re dedicating your evenings and weekends to those hours of planning which can easily start to take over and take it’s toll on your relationship.
Treat planning your wedding as you would any job and allow yourself some well-deserved time off from it every now and then. A date night where you don’t talk about the wedding, a weekend break where you also have a break from wedding emails or a morning commute where you don’t let yourself spend the whole journey scrolling through Pinterest for styling ideas.
As important as planning your wedding is, it’s also important to step away from it every now and then and simply enjoy being a fiancé.
If you haven’t already got a spreadsheet for everything to do with your wedding, this is your cue to go and make one! It is vital to put a process in place to stay on top of things when it comes to your suppliers, your budget and your schedule for the day. This can also be a shared document with your wedding planner which you can both contribute to and stay regularly updated with your plans.
Getting organised with this as early as possible will help keep you on track throughout the planning process and help you enjoy wedding planning much more.
In the midst of wedding planning, it’s easy to get caught up on the small things (meltdowns over linen choices, anyone?) and lose sight of the most important part of being engaged: you are getting married to the person you love.
When things seem especially tough and all you seem to be able to do is focus on the small details, take a step back and think about the bigger picture. Regain perspective, remind your partner how much you love them and know that if, at the end of your wedding day, you are married to the person you love, you have had the best wedding day possible.
So there you have it! I hope this reassures you that if you are finding wedding planning difficult, you definitely aren’t alone.
To chat through the elements of wedding planning that you are struggling with and discuss how hiring a wedding planner might help you out, visit the Rachel Dalton Weddings website or get in touch here.
The chances are you might not have much of an appetite on the morning of your wedding, but please please PLEASE try and have a decent bit of food before you walk down the aisle. An empty stomach with a couple of celebratory glasses of bubbles is never a winning combination!
A cooked breakfast, fresh fruits or pastries are good options to keep you fuelled up until your evening meal, and if your ceremony isn’t until later on in the day then it’s always a good idea to have a couple of trays of sandwiches for you and your girls to snack on over lunchtime. And whilst it’s always lovely to have a glass of bubbles whilst you’re getting ready, remember to drink plenty of water on the morning of your wedding too!
This goes without saying, but make sure that you allow plenty of time for getting ready. Liaise with your hair/makeup artists to work out how long you and your bridesmaids will each need to get ready and put together a schedule so that everybody knows the order in which they are having their hair and makeup done.
As well as this, factor in time to eat and plenty of time to put on your dress (I always recommend allocating a minimum of half an hour for this just in case!) as well as allowing plenty of time to get to your ceremony venue. The time will fly by quicker than you imagine and one thing that you should never feel on your wedding morning is rushed.
Whether that’s blasting out music and giggling with your closest girls or listening to a chilled out playlist and spending some time by yourself, it’s important that your wedding morning runs exactly the way you want it to and you shouldn’t feel pressured to do anything you don’t want to do.
Spend the morning with the people that you want to be there – that could mean your family, your bridesmaids or your fiancé (yes, despite what people might try and tell you, you ARE allowed to spend the wedding morning together if that’s more your thing!) Most importantly, don’t let yourself feel overcrowded at any point, the atmosphere on your wedding morning should be completely calm.
Detail shots on the morning of your wedding are so lovely and a wonderful way to remember those few hours you spend getting ready. To help your photographer capture the right things, set aside items like your shoes, your jewellery, your perfume and your garter as well as your dress and veil for them to style up.
If you don’t think you’ll remember to do this on the morning of your wedding, delegate this task to your wedding planner or a trusted bridesmaid the night before!
Repeat after me: my wedding morning is not the time to try out new skincare products.
You never know how your skin is going to react to new products, so always allow at least 4 months to try out any changes to your usual skincare regime before your wedding and, on the morning itself, stick to the products that you know your skin loves! The same goes for your hair routine – if you’re thinking of dying it or going for the chop, make sure you test it out WELL in advance.
On the morning of your wedding you want to feel as comfortable as possible, so why not invest in a beautiful bridal robe or some gorgeous pyjamas, so that you are not only comfortable but you also feel happy having your photo taken.
It’s also worth noting here that if you are wearing a gown with a low back, don’t wear a bra for a couple of hours before you get into your dress. That pesky mark that your bra strap leaves behind can take a surprisingly long time to go away!
It’s always a good idea to pack up a few essentials such as tissues, lipstick, deodorant, perfume and lip balm (and your phone, if you’d like it nearby on the day) into a small clutch so that you can freshen yourself up throughout the day.
I’d recommend leaving this with either your wedding planner or your mum/bridesmaids so that you don’t have to focus on carrying it during the day. A great place to leave this is tucked under your space at the top table so that you can discreetly head off to freshen up during your reception!
Lastly, but by no means least, remember to pause and take in every moment of your wedding morning. It is such an exciting time filled with so much adrenaline so I would always recommend stepping away for a moment and pausing to take it all in.
Wedding Planner: Rachel Dalton Weddings
Photographer: Liza Edgington Photography
Gown: Suzanne Neville
Shoes: Sophia Webster
Visit the Rachel Dalton Weddings website to learn more about my Wedding Planning services.
We’re all a little guilty of taking where we live for granted. Which is probably why it’s taken me this long to spend a day at the Chewton Glen Hotel, a luxurious 5-star country retreat in the heart of The New Forest (and, conveniently, only a mere 10 minutes from my house!)
Popular with couples and families alike, Chewton Glen really does have it all. Immaculate grounds, beautifully classic interiors, attentive staff and (call me biased) arguably the most incredible location in the UK, with the beach, the forest and charming local towns all just a stone’s throw away.
(Side note: it is also a truly gorgeous wedding venue, but more on that another day!)
My sister and I recently visited Chewton Glen for a spa day to celebrate her birthday and it was everything we hoped for and more. Keep reading to hear our thoughts on the spa and everything we got up to during our day there.
Chewton Glen have a huge variety of spa days available so there will be something to suit everybody. We opted for the Meze Spa Day, which included 3 luxurious treatments as well as full use of the spa facilities and breakfast, lunch and refreshments throughout the day.
At £180, the spa day was exceptionally good value given the number of treatments it included and the gorgeous 5-star surroundings. You can buy their spa days as a gift and have the voucher beautifully presented in a gift box, which makes a lovely treat for whoever you are wanting to spoil.
Whilst the spa at Chewton Glen is a part of the main hotel, it has it’s own entrance which makes it feel wonderfully secluded.
The spa is very classic in it’s design and features a huge indoor pool, an outdoor whirlpool, an aromatherapy sauna, a crystal steam room and a relaxing hydrotherapy pool. You’ll also find a nail studio and, if you’re after a more active day out, there’s tennis courts, a gym and a golf course.
There’s also plenty of areas to relax with a good book or a magazine, including an outdoor area with views that look straight out into the forest. I even dozed off on a lounger at one point!
Ahh… the treatments. With the spa day that we chose we received three treatments: a 45 minute back, neck and shoulder massage, a 25 minute express facial and a 25 minute express manicure or pedicure.
It’s safe to say that the spa therapists at Chewton Glen know their stuff. All of the treatments were incredible – the massage in particular was exceptional and SO relaxing. The treatments we received featured OSKIA products which were lovely – Chewton Glen even have two bespoke scents for their products which pay homage to the surroundings of the hotel. PURE. BLISS.
Rest assured, you are well looked after during your spa day at Chewton Glen. When we arrived, we were greeted and immediately seated for breakfast in the pool bar, which included a generous portion of fruit, yoghurt, granola and miniature pastries, as well as a selection of fresh juices.
Lunch is served buffet-style, leaving you to come and go at your leisure, and features a delicious selection of lighter salads and cold meats, as well as hearty soups, bread rolls and jacket potatoes. There’s also a mouth-watering assortment of miniature desserts that are so good you must try more than one!
Being so local to me, I’ve not yet been able to justify spending the night in one of Chewton Glen’s gorgeous rooms or suites HOWEVER if you are looking to make your visit last more than just one day then they have some incredible accommodation available.
For a particularly special treat, book a night or two in one of their beautiful treehouses, which offer a totally secluded and truly luxurious night’s sleep.
Overall, I couldn’t recommend the spa at Chewton Glen enough! Their spa days are the perfect invitation for a full day of relaxation – whether you are looking to spoil a friend/family member or simply wanting to treat yourself, you won’t be disappointed. The spa is luxurious and classic without being pretentious, the treatments are incredible and the staff couldn’t be more helpful and attentive. Why not spoil yourself and pay a visit!
After a blissful few days of sunshine in May (hellooo bank holiday barbecues), June was well and truly unable to make up it’s mind when it came to the weather – with sun, rain and even a heatwave thrown in for good measure!
With the ever-unpredictable English weather it’s always worth considering that, if you are getting married in the UK during the summer months, there’s a chance that your wedding day could be a scorcher – just look at last summer for example! So with that in mind, here’s a few tips on what to do if there’s a heatwave on your wedding day.
Sunshine on your wedding day can be a blessing for so many reasons. You can get outside for photos, have an outdoor drinks reception or even have your ceremony outdoors. However, just make sure that for all of the opportunities you give your guests to be outside, you also give them the option to be in the shade or indoors. This is particularly important for children or elderly guests who might struggle to be in the heat for too long.
Staying cool and calm whilst you’re getting ready on the morning of your wedding is always important, but especially so if you’re experiencing a heatwave. To help avoid getting too hot, wear loose, breathable clothing (a light bridal robe is perfect), open the windows to get some fresh air flowing and set up some fans to keep you and your girls cool. Also remember to drink plenty of water and take regular breathers if/when you need them.
If you’re having your makeup done professionally on the morning of your wedding then your makeup artist should be prepared to use long-wear products on you to see you through the warmer weather. However, if you are doing your own makeup on the day then make sure you prepare your skin with a good quality primer before you start your makeup, and finish your look with a long lasting setting spray to make sure that your makeup won’t budge throughout the day. It’s also so important to wear an SPF on your wedding day, you’ll likely spend a lot of time in the sun and the last thing you want is to burn!
As lovely as it is to provide free-flowing bubbles and delicious cocktails at your wedding, one of the most common mistakes I see as a wedding planner is couples forgetting to provide enough water. It’s always a good idea to have some water available for your guests both during your drinks reception and before your ceremony whilst your guests are waiting (especially if you are having your ceremony outdoors). If you are looking to ‘pretty’ up your water, put out some Kilner jars of water flavoured with fresh fruits and herbs for guests to help themselves to throughout the day.
Marquees, and in particular clear-roof marquees, can get very hot and stuffy on warm days. It’s best to speak to both your wedding planner and your marquee provider to get advice on how to make sure that your marquee doesn’t get too hot – this could involve things like ventilation systems, draping or even just adjusting the timings of your day slightly. This certainly isn’t a reason to be put off marquee weddings (they are, after all, perfect for the summer) however it is definitely worth making sure you are prepared for the heat so that your guests remain comfortable all day.
Setting up some toiletry baskets for your guests is always a lovely touch but it will be particularly well received on warmer days. Deodorant, blotting sheets, water mister sprays, and suncream are a few great things to include. And remember to pack yourself a small bag of essentials to stay freshened up throughout the day too. It’s also a lovely idea to provide handheld fans or sunglasses for your guests during the day, and flip flops at night so that they can kick off their heels and party the night away!
If there’s one thing you’ll never be able to control on your wedding day it’s the weather. You can, however, make sure that you are prepared for any possible extreme weather conditions that might arise. If you’re in the process of planning a summer wedding, I hope these tips help you stay prepared if there is an unexpected heatwave on the day!
To learn more about my wedding planning services, visit the Rachel Dalton Weddings website.
Yesterday marked 6 months since I officially launched my business, Rachel Dalton Weddings… how crazy is that!
It’s been one heck of a 6 months but it’s safe to say that I have absolutely LOVED it. And to mark the occasion, I’ve had a little change up over here on my blog.
When I launched The Ivory Book (which is also now 6 months old – yay!) I promised myself that I would let it grow organically and evolve with me. So, with that in mind, you’ll notice I’ve made a few tweaks to the heading bar at the top of my posts.
I’ve scrapped my two least used categories and replaced them with a ‘career’ category. Don’t worry, this won’t become a place for jargon-heavy business posts about how you must run your business (although if I figure that out, I’ll let you know!), instead it will be a place to lift the lid on the realities of owning your own business, have an honest chat about self employment and give the occasional bit of advice about how to get started with a career in the wedding industry.
So today, I’m kicking things off with an honest post about what I’ve learned in my first 6 months of owning a business.
This may not be the case for every business startup, but one thing which I’ve definitely struggled with in these first few months is people actually understanding what I do. Perhaps it’s the fact that wedding planning is still a relatively new career, perhaps its my ever changing routine that is hard to keep up with, but my friends and family still frequently ask me what I actually do day to day, and I’m okay with that!
No one’s noticed that you haven’t posted on Facebook in four days, nobody minds that you didn’t upload to your blog this week, no one cares that you haven’t nailed that cohesive Instagram theme that you were hoping for. Everybody is busy focussing on their own business and their own life so PLEASE don’t worry that you are being scrutinised. Just keep your head down and focus on you and your business.
I’ll be honest, this is probably the part of self-employment that I was most nervous about before my business launched. I’m very lucky that I still work elsewhere two days a week so I still experience some of that office camaraderie, but being your own boss can feel very lonely at times. As much as I hate to use the dreaded ’N’ word, networking is important and having supportive friends in your field of work will be vital in your first 6 months of business. Talk to them, you definitely won’t be the only one feeling like this.
I think there’s an unspoken rule when you run your own business (or perhaps just with life in general) that feeling proud of yourself is something to feel guilty about. In a world where there is criticism everywhere, personally I think it is SO important to celebrate your successes, whether they are related to your business or not. Last month when I had the opportunity to visit New York Bridal Fashion Week, you can bet I shouted about it just as loudly as when I secure a dream wedding planning client. Success in life is made up of so many factors, and it is OKAY to feel proud of yourself.
It might just be me who feels this, but starting my own business gave me an entirely new appreciation for my friends and family and the support they give me. Whether it’s supporting your social media posts, giving advice or just being there for a cuppa or a FaceTime on those down days – notice and appreciate everything that your loved ones do to support you. They’ll prove themselves to be even more amazing than you thought they were.
…Sorry to burst that bubble.
When you’re self employed, there is no such thing as normal. Some weeks you’ll feel as though you’re working on overdrive, flitting between meetings and events whilst trying to stay on top of your inbox. Other weeks, you’ll find yourself sitting in your office with your fifth cup of tea that morning wondering why your phone hasn’t rung in days. The lows feel incredibly low whilst the highs feel exponentially high, and that’s a part of self employed life that you just have to make peace with.
I feel like one of the most Instagrammed quotes out there is ‘don’t look back, you’re not going that way’ but in all honesty, I disagree. It’s so important to look back and see how far you’ve come, see everything that you’ve achieved along the way (no matter how big or small the milestones are) and celebrate your accomplishments. Use it to push yourself forward and achieve even more.
And on that note, here’s to another wonderful 6 months!
THANK YOU to all of the amazing people who have followed, celebrated and supported this crazy journey so far, it doesn’t go unnoticed and I couldn’t be more grateful.
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If you’ve spent any time with me over the past two months you’ll likely have heard me go on about how much I absolutely loved Iceland. It was truly the most surreal, captivating country that I’ve ever visited and, since getting home, I have recommended it to just about anybody that will listen!
You might have caught my post last week with my top tips for travelling to Iceland (if you didn’t, you can go and give it a read here) so today I am rounding up of everything we got up to during our trip into one ultimate four day itinerary.
Call me biased, but I think we nailed it when it came to our itinerary for this trip. Our days were jam-packed and involved plenty of driving, however we still felt like we had time to relax and take everything in.
We spent 4 days travelling the south-western parts of Iceland, so keep reading to see everything that we got up to! I hope it inspires you to plan your own trip to this stunning country.
Having landed in Iceland the day before and spent the evening settling in to our cabin, we woke up on our first day prepared for a busy day of exploring.
We spent our first day doing a version of the Golden Circle route. The Golden Circle is a route which traditionally starts in Reykavik and has three main stops: Thingvellir National Park, Gullfoss Waterfall and the geysers Geysir and Strokkur. It is a great route which will show you Iceland’s biggest attractions, although I would recommend adding in a couple of your own stops if you can as there is SO much more to see along the way!
Setting off from Selfoss, our first stop was Kerid crater lake, the remains of a collapsed volcano which, although frozen over when we visited, was incredibly beautiful.
Next on our agenda was the much quieter but incredibly beautiful stop of Faxi waterfall. This is conveniently located on the route of the Golden Circle however it seems to be overlooked by most tourists – when we visited there were only around 4 other people there, which made it lovely and serene. Your are able to get up quite close to Faxi waterfall, making it the perfect stop for any keen photographers out there.
We then visited Gulfoss Waterfall, one of the most popular stops on the Golden Circle but definitely one of the most spectacular! The views you get of Gulfoss are stunning, and if you are visiting in the summer months when it is less icy, you can climb down and get even closer to the waterfall.
Not too far from Gulfoss, our next stops were the geysers Geysir and Strokkur. Although Geysir has laid dormant for years, Strokkur frequently erupts every 6-10 minutes and can reach heights of up to 40 metres!
Our final stop of the day was Bruarfoss waterfall. There is a small car park for Bruarfoss just off the Golden Circle route, however the waterfall itself is a little off the beaten track and requires a walk to reach it. It’s important to note here that the road to Bruarfoss was closed a couple of years ago due to the damage the trespassers were causing to local houses, therefore parking in the official parking and following the 3km hike is your only way of reaching Bruarfoss waterfall. The view you will get at the other end is well worth the hike, however, with breathtaking blue waters and a welcoming sense of calm compared to some of the bigger, more touristy areas. Be sure to stop at Midfoss waterfall along the way, and don’t forget your camera – this stop was one of our favourites.
On our second day, we set of on a mammoth road trip along the south coast of Iceland. There is SO much to see along the south coast and, similar to the golden circle, everything is very easy to find and mostly on the route 1 road. As well as the main stops, you’ll find so many opportunities to pull over along the way – this route is incredibly beautiful and the drive alone is something spectacular.
We started our day with a stop at Seljalandsfoss waterfall – a spectacularly tall waterfall which you can even walk behind! Although touristy, it is well worth a visit, and whilst you are there, be sure to take the short walk down to the much lesser-know Gljúfrabúi waterfall. This is a truly stunning waterfall hidden behind a huge rock, and it seemed to be one of the area’s best kept secrets! You will have to wade through a shallow river to get there, however it is definitely worth it to see the waterfall up close. And it goes without saying, wear a waterproof coat and be prepared to get wet!
After drying ourselves off and warming up with a hot chocolate, we headed off for our second stop, Skógafoss, another incredible waterfall just a short drive from Seljalandsfoss. Here, you are also able to walk right up close to the waterfall, as well as being able to climb up a path and view it from above. Another must-see if you are going to Iceland!
Next up, we made a couple of brief (but no less beautiful!) stops – pausing to see the black sand beaches of Vik, and pulling over at Foss á Sidu, a narrow but very tall waterfall which is right on the side of the route 1 road.
Unfortunately, we had to abandon our plans for our next stop, Fjadrargljufur Canyon, which was closed off due to the wintry road conditions. I still wanted to include it in this post however, as it looks like such a beautiful place to see if you are heading to Iceland in the summer months!
Undeterred, we made our way to the next place on our route, Skaftafell Nature Reserve. Skaftafell was incredible and, in total honesty, I think one of our only regrets of the trip was not allowing more time to explore here. There are some truly breathtaking glaciers (which you can take guided tours of, if you wish) and Svartifoss waterfall, which we unfortunately didn’t have time to see.
We discovered one of the most spectacular sights from our trip completely by accident, when we detoured down a small gravel road a few minutes down the route 1 road from Skaftafell Nature Reserve and discovered Svínafellsjökull glacier. The sun was just beginning to set when we arrived here and I can honestly say it was one of the most surreal moments of my life. We spent roughly an hour at Svínafellsjökull and saw no more than four other people up there, making it so serene and peaceful. I can’t recommend this stop enough!
Our final stop of the day was The Diamond Beach. By the time we got here, it was completely dark, and although this wasn’t ideal, it was completely magical to see the crystal blue icebergs glistening in the moonlight.
To give the perfect ending to an incredible day, we were even lucky enough to see the northern lights that night, and we pitched ourselves under a bridge between The Diamond Beach and Jökulsárlón Glacier Lagoon to watch them dancing overhead.
I feel that it’s important to note that, if you are planning on doing this particular drive, consider booking somewhere to stay the night near to your final stop. We found ourselves exhausted, hungry and 4 hours from our cabin at 10 o’clock at night and we chose to drive the long journey back (through a blizzard, I should add!) rather than stop at a hotel, which we both agreed wasn’t the most sensible idea.
Nonetheless, this day of our trip was truly unforgettable and I wouldn’t hesitate to explore more of the south coast of Iceland!
Day 3, and after a much-needed lie in we were headed for Iceland’s capital, Reykjavik.
We made a quick detour on our way there and stopped off in the charming town of Hveragerdi, which is referred to as the hot spring capital of the world due to it being built on a hot spring field! We found this a lovely place to have a wander along the river and see the hot springs for ourselves.
Once we made it to Reykjavik, we stopped for some lunch before having a look around the city. Although it is a quaint place to visit, we didn’t find a huge amount to do in Reykavik and, overall, we felt glad that we hadn’t stayed there for the duration of our stay. Whilst you are there I would recommend paying a visit to Hallgrímskirkja church, one of Iceland’s most prominent landmarks.
We finished up our day with a visit to the famous Blue Lagoon. This is very near to Keflavik airport so, if you can, it is worth seeing if you can tie in your visit with your flight to/from Iceland, and make sure you book in advance because their morning time slots do get booked up! The Blue Lagoon is spectacular, incredibly relaxing (you get a complimentary drink and silica mud mask with your entry fee) and you could easily spend a few hours unwinding in their gorgeous blue waters.
With an evening flight booked, we made the most of our final day in Iceland and headed 2 hours north of Selfoss to the waterfalls Hraunfossar and Barnafossar.
We took a slight detour on the way there and drove through Thingvellir National Park (a stop on the Golden Circle which we had missed out three days before) which made a beautiful drive, and would definitely be somewhere I would like to explore for longer next time we visit.
With Hruanfossar and Barnafossar waterfalls, it’s safe to say that we saved something special for the end. They are a handful of incredibly beautiful waterfalls right next to one another, and the views you will get of them are truly spectacular. As it’s a little way from Reykavik, Hruanfossar is another waterfall that doesn’t attract a huge amount of tourists, so take your time enjoying the peaceful scenery.
By the end of our trip we were exhausted but completely enamoured with Iceland. The Land of Fire and Ice truly has so much to offer and it’s a place that has to be experienced to be believed. I have recommended it to SO many people since and I would return back in a heartbeat!
My career in the bridal industry has earned me some truly incredible opportunities over the years but it’s safe to say that this spring, when I had the opportunity to attend New York Bridal Fashion Week with my Anna Bridal family, it was the biggest highlight of them all. We were out there for the preview of the Berta S/S 2020 collection – the biggest event in the Bridal Fashion Week calendar and one of the most incredible runway shows I’ve ever witnessed.
Staying true to the iconic Berta brand, the ‘Milano’ collection is glamorous, romantic and the epitome of modern bridal. Featuring the intricate laces, show-stopping silhouettes and spectacular embellishment that has become synonymous with Berta designs, there is truly something for every bride in this collection.
I’ve shared some of my favourite images from the show below, so I will leave you in a moment to have a scroll and revel in aaaaall the bridal beauty.
BUT before I do… I am SO excited to reveal (after months of keeping it under wraps) that Anna Bridal Couture are now stockists of the Muse By Berta collection! It has been such a pleasure working with Anna on this incredible collaboration and I can’t wait to see the collection launch at Anna Bridal this summer. Be sure to follow Anna Bridal on Instagram to be the first to hear when the Muse By Berta collection arrives in the boutique!
2019 has so far been a year of travel and I am LOVING every second of it! In March, Jordan and I took our first big trip of the year and finally visited beautiful Iceland.
If I’m honest, I’d always been put off going on a ‘cold’ holiday, and this trip was definitely more Jordan’s choice than mine. Nonetheless, I was completely proven wrong and I wouldn’t hesitate to get my snow boots back on and visit another cold country soon.
There was something about Iceland that completely captivated me. It is like no country I’ve every visited (on the drive from the airport to our cabin I couldn’t stop squealing “I feel like I’m living in a water bottle label!”) and if you go to the right places, Iceland offers a total sense of serenity that has to be experienced to be believed.
I got TOTALLY carried away writing this post and quickly realised that I was going to have to split it into two posts, so stay tuned for my ultimate 4 day itinerary for a holiday in Iceland, which will be coming soon!
Today however, I’m sharing my top tips for travelling to Iceland, so keep scrolling to read everything I learned about visiting this incredible country.
Currency: Icelandic Króna, however cards are widely accepted.
Language: Icelandic, although you will find that most people speak English. I would usually suggest learning some basic phrases out of courtesy (especially because the locals are so polite and friendly) but Icelandic was exceptionally difficult to read and pronounce, so stick to English if you’re not sure.
Getting there: There is a common misconception that Iceland is far away but you can actually expect to get from London Gatwick to Keflavík (the main airport in Iceland) in just over 3 hours! If you can, fly with Icelandair – we were very impressed by their planes for a short haul flight.
Getting around: Although you will find tours aplenty in Iceland, I would highly recommend hiring a car and finding your own routes around. You’ll find more on this below.
Where to Stay: We stayed in a lovely cabin just outside Selfoss, which suited us perfectly. Again, I’ve included some more details on why we chose Selfoss below.
You will find so many tours and excursions available in Iceland but I would HIGHLY recommend hiring a car and finding your own way around. It will give you so much more freedom and, as you will quickly realise once you’ve visited Iceland, there are SO many photo opportunities available that you won’t be able to resists pulling over to take in the scenery. We hired our car from Geysir and we experienced no problems. Although the main roads are relatively clear, you can expect snowy driving conditions on some of the smaller roads during the winter, so I would recommend hiring a 4×4 if possible, and make sure that your hire car has winter tyres.
This goes without saying for any new country you visit, but do your research! We based our itinerary each day on some of the biggest sights in Iceland, but then spent a generous amount of time googling to find any lesser-know sights to stop at along our route, which ended up being some of the trip highlights for us. Icelanders are very proud to show off the hidden gems of their country, so look for blogs specifically written by Icelanders to find some sights that you might not have considered.
From what I’ve researched, there doesn’t seem to be a bad time of year to visit Iceland, however to be in with the best chance of catching the Northern Lights, visit between September to March. Don’t be disheartened if you don’t see them during your trip (I naively thought they would be much more common to see than they actually were), however the Northern Lights truly were a magical sight to see and I would DEFINITELY recommend that you try to view them at least once in your life.
One of the things you will hear most when you tell people you are visiting Iceland is how expensive this country is, and they’re not wrong – Iceland is relatively pricey compared to most other European countries. Don’t let this put you off, however. Iceland is perfectly doable on a budget, just be prepared to be a little strict with your spending. My biggest recommendation would be to choose accommodation which allows you to self-cater. We cooked for ourselves or packed lunch supplies in the car for almost every meal, which really kept costs down.
Iceland was, for us, the ultimate place for an adventure BUT that shouldn’t stop you from being cautious where necessary. Be respectful of any roads or paths that have been closed off due to dangerous conditions, take care when driving in snow or ice and always have emergency road assistance numbers to hand just in case you need them.
We chose to stay in Selfoss (around 50 minutes outside of Reykjavik) and I think it was one of the best decisions we made for this trip. Although a very pretty city, Reykjavik definitely wasn’t our favourite place that we visited (it is also very expensive) and Selfoss was much more centrally located for the other parts of Iceland that we travelled to. Our cabin was conveniently located close to route 1, the main ring road around Iceland, and it provided a beautiful, secluded and cosy place to relax between our busy days of exploring.
Of all the pairs of shoes that I own, I never thought that it would be a pair of winter snow boots that would steal my heart but I am SO glad that I invested in these before our trip. My snow boots were the only pair of shoes that I packed (this is officially the only holiday we’ve been on where Jordan has taken more pairs of shoes than me!) but they kept my feet warm and dry all holiday so I would definitely recommend!
Many wedding suppliers will tell you – inspiration for the styling of your big day can come from just about anywhere. And for me, one of the best places to look for some of the best styling inspo can come straight from the high street!
With many high street shops now having branched out into homeware (and many of them totally nailing it!), why not take a look at them for some one-off decor pieces that can provide the perfect finishing touches to your day.
Now, I’m of course not suggesting that you go and purchase 120 of those dreamy-but-could-never-justify-it glassware sets for your guests on the day (there are so many incredible companies with gorgeous tableware available to hire), however I would definitely take a look at what’s available on the high street for specific decorations or the perfect styling props for those detail shots that you are desperate for your photographer to capture.
It’s also worth noting, for any of my fellow planners or stylists that are reading this, that I often use pieces from the high street for styled shoots – as I did with the tableware in the images on this post.
Below you’ll find some of my favourite places on the high street for wedding props and decorations, I hope it provides some inspiration for the styling of your big day!
You never quite know what you’re going to find when you venture into TK Maxx, but it can be such a great place to find some one-of-a-kind decor pieces – think interesting trays, unusual bowls and decorative baskets, which can all be great for wedding styling! You’re also pretty much guaranteed a great price at TK Maxx, which is perfect when you’re close to maxing out your wedding decor budget.
Another wonderful and affordable option on the high street, Ikea is a good place to look for any decorative pieces that you are looking to buy rather than hire. I have previously used Ikea tableware for a photoshoot, however one of the things they are best for is candles and candle holders. It works out fairly affordable to buy a bulk-load of your favourite candlesticks / tea light holders from here, you can then either look into selling them on after the wedding or use them around the house as a reminder of your big day.
If you ever lose me, there’s a high chance you’ll find me browsing through the H&M Home in Westfield shopping centre. The H&M Home line is SO dreamy – always on trend whilst still being effortlessly timeless. For your wedding day, check them out for vases, decorative trays and candle holders, and if you are having a chill-out lounge area at your wedding, definitely take a look at their cushions.
I will never get tired of the Anthropologie home section. It is much more on the pricey side, but it is definitely worth a look for any unique or alternative decor items and a few minutes on their website will leave you feeling seriously inspired! Some of my favourite pieces? Their intricate trays (perfect for stationery flatlays!), unusual vases and tableware and some gorgeously twee cake stands! At the very least, treat yourself to a couple of pieces to spruce up your marital home.
I’ll be honest, I think I was in my twenties when I first shopped in a Matalan. I’ve always been skeptical of the quality of their products but definitely don’t let this put you off – Matalan shops are HUGE, their products are very affordable and they have a really great homeware section. Take a look at their vases and planters; they also have a wedding collection which includes some fairly cliché but incredibly fun hen party games and decorations.
The Zara Home collection is choc-full of all kinds of interior inspiration. Again, it’s a little more on the pricey side so I’d recommend selecting a few pieces that will really enhance your styling on the day – think pretty linens, interesting bowls and table accessories that you’ll continue to use long after your wedding day.
Yep, you read that right! Tesco have a lovely homeware section called Fox & Ivy with some great quality yet very affordable pieces. It’s where I picked up the holographic glassware for this photoshoot, which I now continue to use at home for special occasions. You are only able to view their pieces in larger Tesco stores rather than online, but I would definitely recommend checking them out!
Oliver Bonas is another store that is on the more pricey side but their pieces are SO gorgeous! They are wonderful for unique table accessories and vases, but they are also my go-to store for gifting so take a look if you are after an alternative yet thoughtful gift for somebody special.
Florals: Arcade Flowers
Stationery: Smitten With Ink
Plates & Linen: Matalan
Glassware & Cutlery: Fox & Ivy at Tesco
Napkins: TK Maxx
Candlesticks: H&M Home
Candles: Ester & Erik
Images by Charlotte Bryer-Ash Photography
For more wedding planning inspiration, visit my Rachel Dalton Weddings website.
Happy April lovelies! And WOW do I feel happy to say that after what felt like the busiest March ever!
Today’s post is a very impromptu one (as I’m currently writing this it’s twenty past midnight and I’ve just put on a sheet mask) however I felt like it was a very necessary post. Grab a cuppa, it might become a long one.
I’ve had this blog for just over four months now and I’ve tried hard to post content that is intentionally thought out and which comfortably sits under the umbrella of wedding and lifestyle. But today, in a moment of calm after a very crazy month, I wanted to post something with a little more heart. An honest chat about how I’m really feeling about my blog and a catch up about what’s been going on around here.
Starting my blog was always part of the plan for me. If you’re a small business owner, you’ll likely be inundated with advice to blog as much as possible (which strikes total dread in some people) however when I set out on this venture, The Ivory Book was never designed to simply be a marketing tool or an SEO driver.
It was designed to be it’s own entity. An accompaniment to my wedding planning business but also an outlet for my own thoughts and, ultimately, a familiar corner of the internet for brides to be, business owners or simply my fellow twenty-somethings who are trying their best to navigate their way through life.
Let’s be real now though – blogging is tough. Sure, anyone can put together some words, add some nice pictures and click upload, but when we’re immersed in an industry that is inundated with incredible bloggers, can anybody really blame us for feeling under pressure to nail it from day one?
It also boils down to quality and consistency. Before my business launched, I confidently said that I would blog twice a week. Now, four months in, I’m quietly chuckling at my naivety as I scroll through the Instagram feed that I’ve neglected and the blog that hasn’t seen any action in a month.
Putting your written voice out there for the world to see is SO hard, especially when you’re not sure if anyone is reading it yet. I’ve designed my business to be an extension of me – it’s my name, my face and, let’s face it, you won’t have to scroll too far down my Instagram feed to find out a personal fact about my journey into the wedding industry or my addiction to diet coke. But there is nothing more exposing than posting something that you’ve written and opening yourself up to the potential scrutiny of your peers (or, even more terrifyingly, that girl you used to go to school with or the woman who stands across from you at Zumba).
The truth that I am skirting around here is that I started to get the fear. Fear of posting, fear of sharing, fear of judgement and fear of aiming big whilst The Ivory Book was still small. Time to put a stop to that, don’t you think?
Spring is, and always has been, my favourite season. It’s a transitional time, an optimistic time and, personally, I like to think of it as an opportunity for a fresh start. So, with that in mind, I’m quashing the fear and focusing much more of my energy on this little blog of mine this month. I’ll stop making promises about how frequently you’ll see me posting, but there will be more posts on the way – with the same thought and intention, just with a bit of added heart.
March was a busy but incredibly exciting month for me – I coordinated an incredible Masterclass Event, arranged a beautiful Photoshoot, attended London Bridal Fashion Week, met with some wonderful couples and suppliers and I even managed to fit in an amazing holiday to Iceland (more on all of that soon!). Now, I am enjoying a brief moment of quiet before a SUPER exciting adventure next week!
So, as we enter the new season and a beautifully transitional period of the year, I invite you to join me in suppressing the fear (be it about blogging, business or any other area of your life) and persevere with the things you care about most. Grasp every opportunity that comes your way, don’t be afraid to shout about it and definitely don’t worry about who hears it.
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